CHARACTER or PRETENCE

"I have done everything" mentality.

Many couples often claim that they are doing or have done "everything" necessary for their spouses to love them, or change from their bad conducts, yet, they wouldn't change. Are they actually getting it right or they think they are doing "everything" correctly? The human mind is complex.

HAVING THE INTENTION TO DO anything is different from doing it, and IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO DO SOMETHING, IT MUST BE DONE WELL, yet to our minds, we are doing it. There are a few people only who can judge themselves appropriately. It takes a matured mind to take a proper self assessment.

THEREFORE, when we have the excellent intentions to do "everything" necessary for our marriages to work excellently, let what we do become our lifestyle instead of being a mere wishful thinking or an ad-hoc conduct, a temporary behaviour, a pretence or a "test".

WHEN it becomes our habit, we will be doing the "everything" without feeling burdened or noticing it ourselves but it is being observed by others who will then appreciate our character and not just our behaviour.

IF A PERSON OF BAD CHARACTER pretends with a good behaviour, many people will still see the pretence in such a behaviour and refuse to acknowledge it as true. Pretending to be what we are not may stay for long but will surely expire unless we work hard to turn the pretence into our character.

IT MEANS WE NEED TO make sure we are real in our behaviour, learn to improve our conducts and review our character. One of the many good ways of achieving this is to choose wisely those we associate with, whether individuals or groups; acquire self-discipline or find a mentor.

SOME CHARACTERS ARE INFECTIOUS;