8 LEVELS OF INTIMACY

1. SOCIAL INTIMACY

This is when you enjoy someone's company in public, when you single that person out in public, when you would rather go to places with that one person because you two have a good connection

2. FRIENDSHIP INTIMACY

This is when it grows beyond just spending time to really get to know each other. When you get to know each other's mannerisms, likes, dislikes and invest in more one on one interactions

3. EMOTIONAL INTIMACY

This is when you become bare and unashamed. You two get to share your fears and desires, you two get to talk about things no one else knows, you two don't have rushed conversations but you go deep in unraveling and unveiling each other and loving each other for who you truly are. This intimacy requires no walls, no pretence, you two get to a place where you can say "I feel understood"

4. PHYSICAL INTIMACY

This is when the connection goes to touch. When you two are safe and free with each other and confident in claiming each other that you effortlessly hold hands, locks arms, hold waists, spank each other, hug a little longer and cuddle

6. SENSUAL INTIMACY

This is when you two tease and arouse each other. You flirt as a couple, you turn each other on, you excite each other's senses, you dress up to give each other visual stimulation, you stroke your fingers on each other's skin, you kiss passionately, you make out

7. SEXUAL INTIMACY

This is beyond having sex. This is you two learning each other sexually and giving each other utmost sexual pleasure. This is when you two discover secrets of each other's body and drive each other crazy

8. SPIRITUAL INTIMACY

This is the highest form of intimacy, where you two join God's spirit and God's spirit downloads truths to you. You know things in the spirit about each other, you pray for each other, you see each other not as sexy bodies but human spirits

May your marriage have this 8 levels of intimacy

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde