HAS SHE STOPPED LOVING ME?

Him and his wife work two different jobs.

Sometimes he leaves the house earlier than she, this day was no exception. He was getting late.

 

He took his last sip of tea and placed the mug down.

He took his car keys and the newspaper, he started walking out and passed his wife as she was coming from the kitchen.

 

His hand was on the door nob, the door was opened, the car alarm switched off.

"Wait!!!" she told him; he stopped.

She straightened his tie that was off.

 

He stepped out, her hands leaning on the door.

Inside the car he went.

Something was wrong with her.

Something was different today.

He looked at her, she was still leaning on the door.

 

This was the first time he had left home, without her telling him "I love you!!!"

It felt weird, he felt unsettled, why didn't she tell him?

Has she stopped loving him?

 

And as he sat there, hands on the steering wheel, thinking only of what he was feeling.

It hit him that for a long time he had been doing to his wife what she's done today.

He couldn't even remember the last time he said "I love you" to her. Lately, she is the one who's been saying those words, he has just been nodding back when she says them, reading the newspaper or sometimes saying a flat and lifeless "I know"

 

Perhaps she got tired of saying it alone. How has she been feeling?

 After he got her used to hearing him saying those three words, why did he suddenly stop assuring her with his words?

As people grow older, does the need to be affirmed go? NO!

 

He quickly got out of the car, feeling sorry over his double standards.

He walked to her, kissed her and held her close.

"I love you" he said. 

She looked at him and said "I know"

He looked back at her, as she gave him a taste of his own medicine.

 

"I know and I love you too" she went on to say.

That's when he realized that we don't say "I love you" to the person we love for ourselves, we say it for them; they need to hear it. Same way as the sun shines afresh each day; even if they know we love them, it feels good them hearing us saying it. 

Do you encourage or discourage the one you love to love you by how you treat him/her? Do you have double standards, wanting to be treated well but not eager to treat well?

Love is both in the words and actions. Your love needs to be heard, felt and done to the one you love.

© Dayan Masinde

In my book, MANHOOD SERIES, I talk about the benefits of a man loving his woman and how it starts by the man loving himself. I talk about the responsibilities of a man to God, to himself, his family and society. Men are capable of loving.

In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I talk about how a woman can make wise relationship choices, how to inspire love in a man and how a woman carries so many blessings for herself and her man.

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