We all have ideas, specs and ideals about the kind of person we will like to marry. There's nothing wrong with that.
I myself there was a point in my life that I wrote down about twelve qualities I want to see in my Rose πΉ.
I have heard some guys say they will like to marry a woman that is a virgin, beautiful, fair, heavily endowed front and back, submissive, hardworking, well mannered etc.
I have also heard some ladies say that they will like to marry a man that's God fearing, rich, caring, handsome etc.
Whatever may be the specs, I believe there are some qualities that are basic and fundamental and these are the things you should look out for first in your potential partner. These qualities are like foundation you should build any other thing on.
They are listed below...
1. Godliness
When I say godliness, I don't mean a lady not wearing jewelry, makeup, fixing attachments, wearing trouser, rubbing powder or a guy not wearing Jean trouser or keeping beards, I mean is the person a child of God? Is he or she truly born again and a committed member of a fellowship?
The Bible says godliness is profitable in all things. When one is godly, he can't cheat on you, lie and deceive you. The person will draw you closer to your Maker.
2. Love
Don't make a mistake of marrying someone you don't love or someone who doesn't love you too. When there's love a lot of things are obtainable and you can find some of them in Corinthians 13:4~8.
When you marry someone that doesn't love you, the person will be tired of you, you won't be valued and appreciated, you will be taken for granted. There's nothing you do that will seem right. Don't make this mistake.
3. Direction
Does the person knows what he wants to do with his life? Does he have a direction for his life? What is he pursuing presently? What is his or her vision, ambition and purpose in life?
Don't marry a confused person or someone that doesn't know where he's going in life, you will end up no where and you will be frustrated in life.
4. Character
Character is one of the critical things that makes or mars a marriage. If he's rich or beautiful without a good character, he's nothing. Beauty is vain and riches are fleeting.
What is the person's character like? Manipulative? Deceptive? Womanizer? Manizer? Alcoholic? Fraudulent? Etc. Check the person's character. If you marry someone with bad character, you will regret.
5. Hardworking
You see, in this life, man must wack. I cannot come and go and kill myself by myself. I must flex o. Don't marry someone that's lazy, hunger go finish your life. Love doesn't pay bills, school fees, take you on vacation, pay house rent nor does it put food on the table, na money dey do am. Money is a major stakeholder in marriage. However, don't marry that doesn't love shey you get?
Guys, don't marry a lady that all she knows how to do is to fix nails, eyelashes, wear latest fashions, use latest gadgets as a result of jumping from one guy to another one and carry about makeup kits but doesn't know how to make money. Marry a supportive woman.
Ladies, don't marry a lazy man, see you see hunger, anger and frustration. You go dey see double. Don't marry a guy that knows how to complain about virtually everything, how there's no job anywhere yet people are getting jobs daily. Don't marry a guy sleeps in a gambling houses, casino, niajabet, nairabet, baba ijebu etc., he will gamble with your life.
Do you see a man that's hardworking, diligent, he will be great in life. Marry a hustling guy.
Let me stop here, all things being equal, with these 5 basic and fundamental qualities, godliness, love, direction, character, hardworking, in a potential partner, you are go to go.
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